Heat Treated Steel
The reason this tree has left such a strong impression on me is it presages two important events in my life though the tree itself has nothing to do with these events and is more akin to an extra in a movie, but I use that analogy to say the tree is like an extra in a movie not by design but by function, meaning I want to be careful not to imply that the tree is nondescript yet things would feel askew if it were missing in the same way a scene featuring an actor in an empty dance club might feel askew—rather I want to imply that the tree is insignificant but it drew my entire attention inadvertently, like the rare moments where you find yourself drawn into the couple laughing in the background as the stars of the movie have a germane conversation in a public place. In that instance, you are still listening to the germane conversation and you are still engaged in the purposeful strokes of the movie, but you are watching the laughing couple in the
The tree makes a second appearance a little shy of one year after the cat died, when my mother called to say she took my father to the hospital that morning because his right arm was numb and he was experiencing massive headaches. I again was walking my dog, and that week I had just gotten a new job I felt good about. My mother was convinced my father’s blood pressure was too high and he was at risk of a heart attack, whereas I was convinced it was something more sinister, such as a lurking stroke or the early signs of ALS. I was looking at the tree again, vaguely aware it was the same tree I had been looking at a year prior thinking that the cat was okay (this mental picture I had of the tree was only solidified when I thought of writing this story and realized I connected the tree to both memories), but this time I was thinking things with my
The weather in Michigan was between fall and winter, a no-man’s land where the grass is dead and the leaves are fallen and brown but the snow has failed to arrive from the dark and heavy clouds that loomed over the day. This was poetic in a nice and classical way because my father was between the fall and winter seasons of his life and also poetic in a somewhat ironic and painful way in that the weather felt purgatorial and emblematic of the next plane my father would inhabit. I was surprised to see so many flowers throughout the house, big bouquets with purple lilies, auburn chrysanthemums, golden sunflowers, and white baby’s breath all arranged in the hallways with vases on every table surface. I was shocked but also heartened to see my father had so many well-wishers in his life. He was gregarious by nature and gained friends throughout the years in his line of work as a salesman who sold large furnaces to factories producing heat treated steel (when I was younger it seemed his job was nothing but going to sports games, strip clubs, and the golf course) and whenever his old high school buddies would come over to the house for poker nights, they’d keep me well past my bedtime by laughing loudly and constantly
When the guests finally did leave each night, my father, brother, and I, were drunk. We would say goodnight to my father, walk him inside the house, and continue drinking on our own. One of these nights, I had my last conversation with my father. It happened on the couch inside the living room which was the closest room by distance to the stainless steel fire pit in the backyard, but for logistical purposes it’s far easier to imagine the conversation taking place at the fire pit itself but it just as well could have happened on the short walk to the door, for the conversation wasn’t so much a conversation at all but rather an exchange of the short phrase I know, which was all we had room for as the last conversation descended upon us like a weather pattern, meaning we both knew the time had come and it was meant to be me who instigated,
On another of these nights, the guests did not come over at all and it was only the four of us by the stainless steel fire pit—my father, my brother, my mother, and myself. My brother had a Bluetooth speaker and we each took turns playing music. When it was my turn, I picked a song written by a singer-songwriter me and my father both liked that was composed shortly after the artist suffered his own terminal diagnosis, so the lyrics were germane and mollifying, essentially asking any loved ones to remember the dead but also to know that their spirit will forever be present in the small actions of each day, such as a lover buttoning her blouse or a child watching the sunset. However, before the first verse was over, my mother declared the song too sad and had my brother take over music duties for the rest of the night. As we all kept drinking and talking, my brother at one point played a song from the time my parents first began dating, meaning it was mid-eighties R&B with a catchy and agreeable chorus. My mother then asked my
The night before my father’s surgery was quiet. The first night the fire pit was unlit. My mother and father were in their bedroom, nervous for the next day, my brother was asleep, and I sat alone on our living room couch, starting a fight with my wife over text message because I felt she was being insufficiently sympathetic and caring to my plight, when in fact she was hurt because both myself and my family were seemingly indifferent to her absence in such a time. I went digging around in my family’s fridge and found an edible that belonged either to my brother or my father. Half the label was torn off, so I had no idea of knowing it’s potency or
My father drove himself to the hospital for brain surgery the next morning and the rest of us followed in scattered groups. I arrived last, having slept in from staying awake too late the night before watching my movie. I knew who was doing the brain surgery because while I was still in San Francisco before flying to Michigan, my father had texted me a photo of the surgeon that must have been taken from the hospital’s website though something had happened that degraded the photo into a pixelated blur (either my father incorrectly copied and pasted the image, it was a mischievous file type, or my phone wasn’t prepared to receive it), so I didn’t at first recognize the surgeon when he came out of the operating room to give us a brief update on how my father’s surgery was going. The tumor was in a trickier spot than they had first envisioned deep between both cortexes and it was difficult to scrape the cancerous cells out without cutting into the various nerve endings that controlled motor and other functions. In addition to the main nucleus of the tumor, there were secondary tumors spread across my father’s frontal lobe that were wispy and impossible to extract. These wispy frontal lobe tumors would likely continue to grow and eventually impair my father’s vision in a way that the surgeon struggled to explain to my mother and brother who were more curious than I was, as my father’s vision wouldn’t grow worse in a way that we would think of an elderly person’s vision growing worse, but rather he would still see objects but would be unable to recognize them for what they were and would instead only see a collection of shapes and colors. My mother and brother also had questions about the life expectancy of someone with the type of cancer my father had. The surgeon struggled to answer these questions as well as he was a surgeon and not an oncologist,
My father’s head was bandaged up with some gauze covering his eyes. The television in his room had a tinted film over the screen, and we weren’t allowed to turn on the overhead lights.
The first thing my father did when he got home from the hospital is use the bathroom. The surgery had left him without control of his body’s left side and only marginal control over the right, meaning it was an ordeal for me and my brother to lift him onto the raised toilet seat we had bought in preparation for his return. When he had finished and called us in to help him wipe, we learned we had placed him on the toilet seat wrong and in fact his ass hung over the entire toilet seat, meaning he had shit all over the actual toilet with none of it landing inside the bowl. We had to lift him up and wipe what we could from his skin. My brother agreed to get him to the living room or another destination while I would clean the rest of his feces from the toilet. Because had had been constipated the last three days in the hospital, there was a lot to clean. It smelt so bad that it caused me to gag which in turn caused me to throw up. My vomit mixed with my father’s feces, and it made me gag again, perhaps psychically. My brother and father started laughing about the situation, and eventually I did too. I next saw my father leave that bathroom two days later while I was upstairs in the spare bedroom on a work call (I had not wanted to take off any time from work as I had just started the job I mentioned earlier and wanted to leave a good impression, which included attending calls with clients and other introductory internal calls), and my father yelled for help. I expected my mother to help him, as she said she would be the one watching him while I was upstairs, and she eventually did, but my father continued yelling, so when I ended my call early to lend my help, I saw my mother carefully walking my father back to the living room, except for some reason my father was completely naked and I
My father died in February and at first my mother was set against having a funeral for him. We had him cremated and kept his ashes in the box the crematorium provided. It was more of a cylindrical tube, really, and the cardboard was printed with an image of a beach that wrapped around the tube—near the bottom of the tube you could see the yellow sand which gave way to the bright blue water and even bluer sky dotted with a few laundry white clouds. Inside the tube was a much less ceremonious plastic bag, and I remember thinking that when we had gotten our cat cremated one year prior, his ashes came in a carved wooden box that itself came in a velvet pouch, though inside that box our cat’s ashes were also stuffed into a plastic bag, which seemed to be the only way to prevent the ashes from escaping their container. I went back to Phoenix and a few months passed. That summer, I read a book with a provocative title that was about the drug cartels in Mexico, the book stating that cartels, in fact, did not exist at all. Since I had watched the movie mentioned earlier in this story, I had found myself thinking about the drug trade more and found myself holding an odd, weak obligation to know more about it
Kyle was walking his dog earlier than he should have been. The desert sun baked into the pavement over the course of a day, leaving the sidewalk at scorching coal temperatures that took hours to cool. He should know, too. He’d seen the signs in the city parks with cartoons of eggs frying on dog paw pads, he’d read the neighborhood Facebook group posts that threaten to call animal control on anyone walking their hound before nightfall. But Kyle wasn’t like those sorts of people. He loved his dog. Ever since he set his eyes on that beautiful hound, Kyle knew they had a bond harder than steel. They did everything together.
It’s not that Kyle didn’t care about the heat or his poor dog. He just needed to get out of the house, and walking the dog was a good reason to do so. It gave his walk a sense of purpose, a beginning and an end. In that way, it was almost a necessity. Plus, he thought to himself, if any neighbors dared to question his pet ownership skills, he would point to the sun currently setting behind the mountains to the west. Not only would this show he had taken the temperature into consideration and waited, but the saturated fructose pink of the sky mixed with the soft pale greens of the palo verde trees would surely provide a moment of calm to any heated confrontation. This allowed him to relax and feel relief flow through him like cool river waters.
Summer evenings never failed to make Kyle think of Detroit. There was something about that city that kept his mind coming back to it, even all these years later. Something about the people, something about the music, or maybe it was just that special something you get when you’re swimming in youth. Summers that lasted forever, even through every night was over in a second. Drinking with friends, dancing with girls, figuring life out before the sun came up. There was just that something Detroit held over him. He hadn’t found it anywhere else, but then again he knew he wasn’t the right age to be looking, either. At least he still had those summer evenings, and this one was no exception.
Kyle’s dog pulled on ahead. It was strange, because he already went to the bathroom. That usually signaled an end to the walk, but the dog trudged on like something propelled him. He carried on that way, pedal to the metal, until he got to the end of the block. The dog stopped right in front of an apartment building further down than their normal walk. In the parking lot was a man sitting in his car with the door open. Kyle had never seen the man before, but he immediately recognized the song playing from the man’s car stereo. He’d heard it himself for the first time a year prior. It was his parent’s wedding song, and he watched them slow dance to it with tears in their eyes. By his count, this was the second time he’d ever heard the song. For one brief second, he allowed himself to wonder if the man waiting in the car was about to go on a date. He allowed himself to wonder if there were other people out there with things to be optimistic about. If there were people who chose happiness.
These thoughts didn’t last long as Kyle turned away from the apartment building. That song only brought him sadness now. It was hard to hear, and he couldn’t imagine choosing to listen to it for himself. But at the same time, maybe there was a reason he’d heard it. Maybe it was a message. Just then, he felt his phone vibrate in his pocket. It was his mom. His mom rarely called him. Had she felt the message too? He could hardly believe it.
“Hello, Mom? You’re not gonna believe what’s happe—”
“What the fuck is wrong with you, do you fucking think you can fucking do whatever you want?” His mom was screaming and crying. Her voice was at a high pitch, and it was hard to hear what she was saying.
“Mom? Are you okay?”
You and your fucking brother can just fuck off! I hate you both! All you want to do is fucking talk shit about me!” She was screaming louder now.
“Mom, what are you talking about? Mom? What’s going on?” Kyle pleaded with his mother. He was confused, and his dog even sensed this confusion, looking up at him with that tilted head look dogs always do.
“Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you! Never come home!” His mom screamed one last time before hanging up the phone.
Kyle stood in the middle of the block. He could still hear the man listening to the song in his car, but it was fainter now. The song must had been close to over.
He took out his phone to call his brother. The dog pulled him forward.
“Yo,” Kyle’s brother said.
“Hey, Evan,” Kyle said. “What’s going on?”
“Nothing, man, I’m just driving home from the bar.” Evan sounded drunk.
“Be careful, you know I worry.” Kyle thought back to the DUI’s their dad had got back in his day. He wondered if Evan was trying to follow in their dad’s footsteps.
“Yeah, yeah bro, you know I’m good. Just like Mr. Anderson in elementary school was good for all those pizza parties he promised!” Evan laughed.
Kyle couldn’t help but smirk at this bit of history. “Alright, fine. Did you talk to mom recently?”
“Yeah, I just called her.”
“What’d you guys talk about?”
“Just everything you and I have been texting about. Just all that bullshit, you know. I told her like it is.”
Kyle felt his stomach sink. “I see. Well, she seems pretty mad.”
"I bet,” Evan said. “She’ll get her bitch ass over it.”
“Yeah, I suppose you’re right. It was just kinda a weird moment when it happened.”
“What the fuck ever man. Life is weird.” Evan hung up.
By that point, Kyle’s dog had brung him all the way to the other end of the block. They were right in front of a large tree with branches that extended across the front lawn.
Kyle’s dog sat down for some reason, and Kyle took the moment to look at the tree. It was filled with branches that were filled with leaves and budding flowers. For that moment, it captured his entire attention.
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